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Avoid letting emotions overpower reason in divorce

The end of a marriage is a difficult time for many New Jersey spouses. Navigating child custody, property division and other contentious issues can be challenging. It is easy to allow one's emotions to overrule reason during a divorce. Doing so, however, is unlikely to yield positive results.

Deciding how to divide personal property is an area with which many couples have difficulty. In many cases, people become very attached to certain possessions, and have a hard time making reasonable decisions about what should be kept and what should be given to the other party. Common examples include wedding gifts, items connected to memories of shared children and pieces of furniture that were handed down by loved ones.

Fighting over such items may feel like the right thing to do at the time, but is rarely a good idea. The cost of lengthy negotiations can quickly dwarf the value of the items in contention. That can mean higher legal bills for both sides. In many cases, the items could have been replaced twice over with the money spent to argue over who will get to keep it during a divorce.

There is nothing unusual about having heightened emotions during the course of a divorce. However, New Jersey residents should make every effort to try and make reasonable decisions during the divorce process. For those who are concerned about racking up hefty legal fees, it is possible to discuss the matter with one's attorney, who can suggest ways to reduce those fees and find resolutions outside of court or attorney-managed negotiations.

Source: The Huffington Post, "10 Things I Learned As A Divorce Attorney", A. Rodriguez, Dec. 6, 2016

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