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Bird nesting may be an option for some couples getting a divorce

Every couple decides to merge lives and residences at different stages of their relationship and often for different reasons. When a relationship ends, couples tend to go their separate ways and establish separate places to live, but some couples with children are choosing to maintain the family home together. New Jersey parents who are considering a divorce may be interested in the new trend called bird nesting.

A new sitcom called "Splitting Up Together" is resulting in some laughs for audiences, but it is a reality for many couples. Bird nesting involves a couple maintaining the family home to allow children to remain in place with the attempt to affect the children's lives as little as possible. Instead, each spouse has a separate residence to live when it is not their turn with the children. In the process, many couples also find that bird nesting allows them to slowly separate their intertwined lives.

Domestic violence may have increased at a New Jersey college

Explosive tempers, mood swings, checking social media posts without permission, isolation from family and friends, and possessiveness are all signs that someone might be in an abusive dating relationship. According to one website, the majority of college students do not know how to recognize the signs of an abusive relationship or understand how to help someone that may be in one. The lack of awareness for some students may be a contributing factor to explain why many college students in New Jersey and across the United States are at an elevated risk for domestic violence.

According to statistics, someone is domestically abused by a significant other every 20 minutes in the United States. Researchers believe that the statistics equate to around 10 million people every year. Sadly, students dating or in relationships on college campuses are not immune to domestic violence. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence believes that being part of a college campus community creates a sense of community and security, resulting in student vulnerability.

Mediation can reduce the impact of a divorce on your children

Most parents know that divorce can have a deep and lasting negative impact on minor children. The more contentious and difficult the divorce, the more likely it is to cause serious consequences for your kids. Witnessing parents fighting, feeling compelled to choose a side and losing time with either parent can all cause emotional and social problems for children.

Focusing your approach to divorce on the needs of the children is always a good idea. It can help you to stay calm and prevent your emotions from taking control. Instead of viewing your spouse as someone to defeat, you can try viewing him or her as someone you will need to work with for many years. After all, you will both remain parents to your children even if you aren't each other's spouses anymore. For some couples, mediation can be a great way to shield children from divorce.

Mediation may streamline the divorce process

Conflict causes stress. How true these words may appear to people who find themselves in situations where they are exposed to high levels of conflict. This may be particularly relevant to New Jersey couples in the midst of a divorce.  

Couples who wish to try and avoid or lessen conflict may benefit from considering mediation as an option. To accomplish this, both parties must buy into the concept and show a willingness to work toward an agreeable solution. Impartial mediators will help to resolve conflict and guide toward solutions for problem aspects such as division of marital property and/or child custody.

Infant taken from mother during child custody dispute

Sadly, one mother in another state experienced many mothers' worst nightmare. Her newborn child was taken from her arms without warning, and she is now in a child custody dispute with her own mother. New Jersey families with similar custody issues may be interested in the details of her circumstances.

The 28-year-old mother was still recovering from delivery when a few officers entered her hospital room and took her baby. The officers who removed her baby were local county police and were accompanied by Native American tribal police. The mother is of Native American descent, and the baby's grandmother had secured a custody order in tribal court of the newborn and the mother's two older children. The county police believed they were assisting the execution of a federal court order but later discovered they were not. The mother has accused the grandmother of falsely accusing the newborn's father of abusing her other two children.

Amicable child custody terms are possible

A divorce is emotionally difficult and affects more than the couple involved. Not only are extended family often invested and affected by the relationship, but many couples must consider the best interest of any children shared between them when ending a marriage. New Jersey parents may be interested to learn that some child custody agreements have been changing in recent years to better fit the needs of children.

Traditional custody agreements often consisted of mothers being granted primary custody of children with fathers only having some visitation. As family life has evolved, traditional custody agreements are becoming less of the norm.  A Science Daily study indicates that children will have fewer problems following a divorce when they have equal time with both parents.

Can New Jersey couples predict their divorce?

When a couple is busy planning a wedding, they are likely giddy with excitement. The last thing on most engaged couple's minds is the possibility of a divorce in the future, but for many couples, it is a potential reality. New Jersey couples who are considering getting married may be interested in recent studies that may be able to predict a future divorce.

Social scientists have been studying married people who have also been divorced to determine if a prediction can be made on whether a couple will remain married. In their research, they found several factors that can increase the chances of divorce. Education and employment are two important factors in whether a marriage will make it. The less education a couple has, the less likely they will remain married. In addition, a husband's lack of employment can lead to divorce court, although studies indicate that a wife's employment status typically has no effect on the stability of a marriage.  

Dog bite attacks can cause serious injuries and mental anguish

People love to assume that dogs are friendly unless they are overtly growling, barking or showing their teeth. They may tell themselves that dogs only bite humans in self defense or to defend a beloved human. In reality, many people end up hurt after a dog attacks and bites them without provocation.

Dog bites can cause devastating injuries. Large dogs can permanently disable or disfigure an adult or even inflict fatal injuries with one bite. Even small dogs can cause serious injuries if they bite someone on the hands, face, neck or a vulnerable area. Those who have suffered injuries due to a dog bite attack have the legal right to hold the owner accountable in New Jersey.

High asset divorce for couple married 70 years

Divorce, wealth and affairs often are the backbone of stories for television or movies, but they are a reality for many couples. While scandals in a marriage can make a good plot line in Hollywood, it can result in stress, pain and heartache for real couples. New Jersey married couples may be interested in the high asset divorce of one couple in another state and the reason they are still in court finalizing their divorce.

Even though the couple had been married almost 70 years, the 89-year-old wife filed for divorce for numerous reasons. On the first day of their divorce trial, the judge granted the divorce as requested, but the couple's vast estate has required subsequent hearings to determine how to split their assets and wealth. Together the couple is worth almost $550 million, and they share three adult children.

Dad racks up 20 years of delinquent child support payments

Most parents want what is best for their children, but some parents do not know how to financially provide properly. In the event that a parent does not do his or her part to assist with the basic financial needs of his or her children, a New Jersey family law attorney may be able to help. One mother likely sought assistance when her former husband allegedly fled the country to avoid paying child support, and he has been accused of delinquent payments for approximately 20 years.

In 1989 the man was ordered to pay $100 a month to help provide for his four children. After requesting smaller payments, he was later ordered to only pay $14 a month. At some point, the court became aware that the dad was operating a successful online business. However, he apparently sold it for $2 million and fled the country in order to avoid making payments.

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