Most New Jersey residents who have been through a divorce know that announcing the intention to end a marriage is never easy. The reaction of the other party can set the tone for the proceedings. Therefore, how an individual announces the desire for a divorce can make all the difference.
Before the announcement, it may be a good idea to prepare. Understanding how the other party may react to the news will guide the preparations. Even if the news will not come as a surprise, that does not mean that the divorce will be amicable. Gathering important documents regarding the marital assets and debts ahead of time is essential.
Blurting out the desire for a divorce without considering the current mental state of the other individual will most likely immediately cause him or her to be on the defensive. This is especially true if the other party is unaware that there are problems in the marriage and the news comes as a surprise. However, it may be possible to keep the proceedings civil by choosing the right time and place to express the desire to end the marriage.
Avoiding a time consuming and expensive divorce is the goal of many New Jersey residents. Taking the time to prepare for it before making the intention known might help to steer the other party into agreeing to stay out of court. People tend to be more satisfied with their divorce settlements if they are negotiated between the parties, which means that each of them retains at least some control over how their individual futures will be.
Source: The Huffington Post, "The Best Way to Ask Your Spouse for a Divorce", Cheryl and Joe Dillon, May 22, 2015