One of the most challenging parts of a divorce proceeding is figuring out who will end up with the kids. However, even after child custody issues have been worked out with appropriate legal guidance, the process of co-parenting can still be challenging. A few tips may help people successfully navigate the co-parenting process in New Jersey.
First, it is critical for the school and teachers of the child of divorce to know what the child's weekly schedule looks like. If the teachers know that a child is supposed to be with dad on certain days, this may help them to figure out which person to get in touch with first when school-related issues arise on those days. Also, teachers might notice that the child is always late or cranky at certain times of the week, which might help them to determine with which parent to discuss the problem.
If a custody schedule has been difficult to pin down, or if a child is now entering elementary school, it is wise to tackle the custody schedule head on. This is because children need predictability. Even though a little flexibility in the schedule may have worked during a child's preschool years, it may not necessarily be effective during the elementary school years, when there are more expectations, more work and more structure.
Although a divorce proceeding involving child custody can be emotionally challenging, a person can feel more in control of the situation by working on a co-parenting agreement with the other party. The agreement can reflect both parties' desires as well as the children's wishes. Otherwise, if two parents cannot address the matter on their own, a judge will determine how child custody will be handled, ultimately focusing on what is in the best interests of the child in New Jersey.
Source: popsugar.com, "Back-to-School Tips For Divorced Families", Laura Lifshitz, Sept. 15, 2015