Although Christmas is supposed to be enjoyable, dealing with the challenges of divorce during the season can put a damper on the holidays. This is particularly the case for those dealing with child custody matters in New Jersey. Some tips may help people to keep the Christmas season a positive one both during and after going through this type of family law proceeding.
First, it is important not to over-question one's child when he or she is with the other parent. This means not constantly asking what one's child did with the other parent all day, such as what the child ate and what the ex-spouse said. These types of questions may end up making the child feel prodded rather than respected.
It can also be beneficial to help a child to pick out a gift for his or her other parent. This is not required to keep the Christmas holiday peaceful, but it can certainly help. This act helps the child to feel as though he or she is prepared for the holiday, and it shows the other parent that one respects him or her and the co-parenting process. This step additionally shows the child that one realizes the importance of maintaining a good relationship with the ex so that the child can have a positive relationship with both parents.
If two parents in New Jersey are willing to try to find common ground during divorce, they may find it beneficial to go through divorce mediation. This process allows them to determine how child custody will be handled during this type of family law proceeding without having to go through litigation. Proper legal guidance may help both parties to reach an outcome that pleases them both while, most importantly, being in the child's best interest.
Source: ksl.com, "7 tips for divorced parents to make the holidays easier", Lacey Hancock, Dec. 14, 2015