Getting divorced in New Jersey is naturally tough on two individuals because of the emotional component of a marital split-up. When the marital dissolution involves children, the effects are not felt only by the parents but also by the children, and the effects can be long ranging. A few tips may help parents ensure their children fare as well as possible following a divorce involving child custody.
First, the younger a child is when a split-up happens, the easier it may be on him or her to cope with it. However, how the parents treat one another when they are in their kids' presence is vital as well. After all, even very young kids can be sensitive to harsh emotion and rage.
It is also wise to make it clear to the kids that there will now be two separate households. It can be beneficial for the two families to have celebrations together, just as they did when the two parents were married. Still, emphasizing that there are two families instead of one family can help to prevent confusion for children and be an important step in helping them to learn and accept their new normal.
If two divorcing individuals can find common ground on child custody matters through mediation or negotiation, this may go a long way in helping the entire family unit both during and after the divorce process. The two parents can put together a parenting agreement that meets both parents' wishes. However, the agreement must most importantly be in the best interest of the child in New Jersey.
Source: goodmenproject.com, "11 Ways to Help Your Child With Your Divorce", Margaret Rutherford, Dec. 29, 2015