The process of divorce in New Jersey can be either remarkably civil or remarkably ugly. For a couple who is hoping to approach the divorce process amicably, it is essential that both individuals do their homework first. The gathering of a little bit of information early in the process can help both parties to establish that they are using the marital dissolution process not as a weapon but rather as a tool.
First, it is wise to tell a spouse sooner than later that one is considering divorce. Also, if the spouse wishes to try couples' therapy, it does not hurt to go through it for a couple of reasons. First, the process may give one's spouse some time to reach the same conclusion that one has already reached -- that a divorce is necessary. Second, a therapist may be able to help both parties to discuss how to break the news of the divorce to their children.
It is also expedient for both divorcing parties to discuss the logistics of their marital split before the divorce paperwork is filed. In addition, parents would be wise to avoid badmouthing their soon-to-be ex-spouses around the children. The ones who often suffer the most in high-conflict divorce situations are the children.
Going through divorce can be difficult not only financially but also emotionally; however, if two people are willing to find common ground, this increases their chances of completing the process in a manner that is mutually beneficial. If possible, two divorcing individuals can complete divorce negotiations or mediation with the goal of reaching a settlement that satisfies both parties and works well for the entire family. If they are unable to do this, however, a New Jersey family court judge will have to make important decisions for the couple.
Source: The Huffington Post, "How To Divorce Like A Grown-Up (And Co-Parent Like One, Too)", Brittany Wong, Feb. 29, 2016