One of the hardest things to do during the end of a New Jersey marriage is to make decisions that are not based on emotion. Each and every couple is unique, and the reasons behind a divorce will be different from one family to the next. Very rarely are both spouses completely at peace with the fact that their marriage is ending, which can make it difficult to remove the emotional aspect from decision making. However, in order to achieve the best possible outcome, that is exactly what need to take place.
Far too many people use their divorce as a means of "getting back" at their partner for some real or perceived wrongdoing. While divorce does have very real emotional consequences, it is primarily a legal process through which a couple can address matters related to shared assets, child custody and other issues. When those decisions can be made with clear heads and an eye toward the future, the outcome is better for all involved.
One of the best ways to avoid emotional complications during a divorce is to make use of the services of a counselor, even if only for a short period of time. A counselor can provide a neutral sounding board for spouses to vent their frustrations and work through their feelings about the end of the marriage. That can pave the way to a more rational and objective decision-making process.
Perhaps the most important thing that New Jersey spouses can do to move through a divorce without allowing emotion to rule the process is to remember that the divorce itself will likely only last a few months. The ramifications of the decisions made during those months, however, will last for many years to come. Keeping that in mind can help both parties focus on making smart decisions that are in line with their long term needs and goals.
Source: marketwatch.com, "Divorce lawyers: 30% more couples terminate their marriage in January", Quentin Fottrell, Jan. 15, 2017