As with so many things, the process of ending a marriage can be greatly impacted by timing. New Jersey parents who are planning to divorce have a number of important decisions to make when it comes to timing. Not the least of those decisions involves when and how to sit down with the kids and discuss the changes that are on the horizon.
Some parents feel that it is better to broach the subject during the middle of the school year, when kids are active and engaged in school and extracurricular activities. This approach allows kids to maintain a high degree of stability while they process their emotional reaction to the news of divorce. Others, however, feel that summer vacation is a better time to tackle the subject of divorce. During the school break, parents often have more time to spend with their kids, which could ease the transition to the new family structure.
Regardless of the timing that parents settle on, the most important thing is that both sides reach an agreement on how to proceed. Parenting often requires presenting a united front, and that need is not diminish after a couple goes through a divorce. Parents should be on the same page about when and how to talk to their kids about the news that the family structure will soon change.
For those in New Jersey who are unsure how to move forward yet remain committed to making the best possible decisions for their shared children, a collaborative approach may be the best option. Schedule an appointment with a family law attorney to discuss various divorce approaches, and to determine whether collaboration is a good fit. Co-parenting after a divorce requires a high degree of cooperation, and talking to kids about divorce is a great place to begin.
Source: The Huffington Post, "7 Secrets For A Child-Centered Divorce", Bari Zell Weinberger, Feb. 24, 2017