Many New Jersey residents can recall reading or hearing about celebrity marriages that ended but where the spouses later decided to remarry. It is important to understand that this is not only an issue that affects celebrities; regular people often remarry a spouse whom they previously divorced. When considering divorce, it is important to carefully consider all aspects of that important decision.
One thing that spouses should give careful consideration to is whether or not they would truly be more happy without their spouse. It is easy to take one's partner for granted and to begin to focus solely on his or her faults rather than strengths. Prior to pulling the plug on a marriage, both spouses should truly think about what their lives would look like without their partner.
It is also important to think about what it might take to save the marriage. Some couples have a great deal of success with marital counseling, while others are able to repair their relationship based on lessons learned through individual therapy. Some couples simply agree to make an effort to reconnect with one another, outside of the therapist's office. No matter what it might take, spouses should consider their options before making a decision.
This is not to say that each and every marriage can or should be saved. There are cases in which spouses are simply better suited to move forward separately than to remain together as a married couple. For many New Jersey residents, giving the marriage every possible chance to survive is a great way for both parties to reach the shared conclusion that divorce is the best path forward. This can pave the way for a far more collaborative process than might otherwise have been achieved.
Source: New York Times, "11 Questions to Ask Before Getting a Divorce", Eric V. Copage, May 17, 2017