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Teen angst: Avoiding trouble from teens during divorce

No teen wants to go through a divorce. It is a pivotal time in life, so teens want their situations to stay stable. Deciding to get a divorce at this time could throw into question everything your teen knows or believes. Since teens are just starting to explore relationships, having teenagers go through theirs parents' divorces can color how they view relationships in the future.

It's important, as a parent, to take this into consideration. The way you approach divorce could have a very real impact on your child for many years to come. Here are a few things that could happen and how to address them.

1. Your teen feels substantial guilt

If your teen believes his or her actions caused your divorce, it can lead to guilt, depression, anxiety and other issues. Make sure you talk to your teen about the divorce and some of the reasons for it. Be clear that the divorce has nothing to do with your teen and that it's a result of two adults who could not make their marriage work in a positive way.

2. Your teen avoids relationships because of how your divorce is going

It's possible your teen could avoid relationships with others if he or she sees a divorce happen in a cruel or negative way. You should approach your divorce as positively as possible, handling situations as professionally as you can. Relationships break down, but that doesn't mean nothing good comes from them. Your teen needs to see that the end of a relationship isn't the end of life.

3. Your teen lashes out

Children tend to lash out when they feel they are not being heard. Make sure you make time to talk to your teen about your divorce and his or her feelings on it. Having open communication cuts down on situations where your teen will yell, scream or berate others because of frustration.

These are a few things that could happen during divorce. Approach the divorce as positively, calmly and professionally as possible, so you can show your child a positive way to handle adversity.

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