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Holiday season custody tips: Minimize stress on your children

The holiday season is supposed to be an enjoyable time for your children. From Halloween through New Year's Day, it's important that you do your part in providing your children with a family-friendly atmosphere that gives them the opportunity to enjoy themselves.

If you share custody with your ex-spouse, it's not always easy to get on the same page during the holidays. Subsequently, it's possible that your children will find themselves in a stressful position.

Here are four steps you can take to ease the tension during this time of the year:

  • Fall back on your parenting agreement: If you have any questions about custody and visitation during the holiday season, review your parenting agreement and visitation schedule for guidance. For example, it may outline the schedule for parents to spend holidays with your children.
  • Maintain some level of flexibility: You want to stick to a schedule the best you can, but flexibility is a must for you, your ex and your children. Maybe your ex has a last-minute change of plans and asks if you can adjust the days you'll spend with your children. If you're able to accommodate the request, by all means do so. Not only will it make your ex happy, but it will also take stress off your children.
  • Include everyone: If you're okay with the idea, ask your ex if they want to spend some time with you and your children during the holidays. This doesn't mean you're getting back together. It simply means that you want to give your children the opportunity to spend time with both parents simultaneously.
  • Don't look for a fight: Regardless of what your ex does, don't turn something minor into a blowout argument. It's best to let disagreements roll off your back during the holidays.

No matter how hard you try, you may find that your ex doesn't want to get along. This is often magnified during the holiday season, as the both of you want to spend time with your children.

Depending on the circumstances, you may need to review your parenting agreement and visitation schedule with the idea of taking legal action. This may be the best way to protect your legal rights in New Jersey and the time you get to spend with your children.

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