Heymann & Fletcher
August 25, 2020

Surviving a Divorce

Practice Area: Family Law | Tag: Divorce

Couple arguing in living room

Divorce is one of the most stressful and sad experiences life can bring. It is easy to fall apart and struggle during this time. However, you can survive and even thrive despite your divorce through positivity, strong relationships, and smart legal advice. Here are our top five tips for ensuring your divorce is as smooth as possible and you come out healthy on the other side.

  1. Remain Civil
    Divorce is often the reality of years of struggle and relationship tension. But continuing to argue and lash out can damage your children and the outcome of your divorce proceedings. Remaining civil and respectful is the best way to ensure you protect your reputation and those around you. And you’ll feel better about yourself for rising above and moving on without added regrets.
  2. Surround Yourself with Positive Relationships
    Divorce is a negative enough experience; you certainly don’t need added pessimism. What you need most of all during a divorce is to be with those you love and who uplift you. Friends and family who will help you to focus on the positive will help you to move forward rather than dwell on the past.
  3. Get Sound Legal Advice
    A divorce can leave you drained emotionally and, in a position, to be taken advantage of by your spouse. Having sound legal advice from an experienced lawyer can mean the difference between a fair outcome and one that leaves you without what you need to thrive. From asset division to child custody, let our team ensure you’re fully represented and receive a favorable outcome.
  4. Organize Your Finances
    Staying organized can help you to feel in control and ensure you’re ready for the legal hoops required in a divorce. Once your divorce is final, you’ll be solely responsible for your finances regardless of your current role in that area. Take the time to organize your bills, learn your credit score, and put a plan together. This will help you eliminate fear and help you feel empowered and in control of your future.
  5. Focus on the Future
    Looking forward instead of focusing on the past is perhaps the best advice we can give you after working with hundreds of clients going through a divorce. You cannot change what has happened, but you can focus on what lies ahead. Spend time with your children, plan a vacation, or start working on that hobby you’ve always wanted to tackle. Rather than focusing on what might have been, begin discovering and building the life you want for your future.

Divorce is always challenging, but you can find yourself in a good place at the end. By focusing on the future and surrounding yourself with those who help you stay positive, your divorce won’t undo you. Rather, you will find yourself flourishing once the dust settles.